Judith Saly was born in Budapest, Hungary 93 years ago. She has always been interested in psychological and spiritual quests for the meaning of life. She was attracted to Eva Pierrakos’s lectures and the Pathwork when she read her first lecture in 1958. She and her husband, John Saly, studied with Eva and John Pierrakos to become Pathwork Helpers. (A Helper is senior level in Pathwork which can qualify people to lead workshops and perform individual sessions with clients.) Always interested in the dynamics of relationship, Judith gave Pathwork sessions to many couples. She compiled the lectures for the book, “Creating Union,” which highlights the Pathwork lectures on relationship, and is the author, co-author or editor of several books.
In this podcast, we explore ways to take care of ourselves – from healing wounding we’ve carried around for years to little things we can do every day to improve our self image.
Dr. Nicola Bird is a new generation psychotherapist who successfully pioneered Self-Imaging Therapy™ (SIT), a ground-breaking approach to personal transformation and brain retraining. Her one-of-a-kind method gives people the tools to free themselves from negative tapes, limitations, and fears. Dr. Bird is also the host of the web series, “Out on the Limb with Dr. Nicola Bird” and co-host of “Out on the Limb Radio with Ajay Matta” and “Transform Your Life with Mike Long”. She is also the author of “The Boomerang Effect: How You Can Take Charge of Your Life.”
In this podcast we speak with Dr. Barbara Schwarck on the neuroscience and its implications on relationships. Are you wired to be in a successful relationship? Is your partner? Understanding various aspects of how the brain works can help us deal with difficult situations.
Dr. Barbara Schwarck, CEO of Clear Intentions International, immigrated to the United States from Germany at the age of 23. She has honed a rare combination of skills, enabling her to coach individuals and deliver powerful keynotes to a variety of people interested in clarifying and achieving goals. Barbara has created Neuro Emotional Coaching®, a cutting edge 4-step process rooted in neuroscience that combines coaching with knowledge of the human brain and its impact on change and leadership. Besides individuals, her corporate executive coaching clients include: Bayer, Bombardier, Heinz, Reed Smith, CMU, and Washington Post.
In this podcast, Dr. Rhona Benens talks about the challenges of maintaining a good relationship with your partner when you have children – from newborns to teenagers. It’s not easy. You make take comfort (or fear!) in knowing that 9/10 couples’ relationships are significantly challenged by the introduction of children.
Dr. Rhona Berens is passionate about helping expecting couples and parents stay sane and stay together. She also offers support to professionals who work closely with families, including birth professionals and teachers. Rhona has been an educator for more than 20 years. She is trained in Relationship Systems Coaching, is certified as an Individual Coach by The Coaches Training Institute, and accredited by the International Coach Federation. Rhona is a Gottman Institute Educator and a facilitator for Gerald Newmark’s program, How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children. She also serves on the Advisory Boards of The Children’s Project and Dovetail Learning.
Can you imagine a relationship characterized by total acceptance and free from conflict? Phil and Maude Mayes can – that’s what they’ve been living for the last 10 years. From their book, “If people knew what strong experiences peace and love are, perhaps they wouldn’t be so attracted to conflict, anxiety, drama and tension.”
Phil and Maude Mayes have been writing and speaking about peaceful relationships for many years. They co-authored the book “Secrets of a Successful Relationship Revealed” and are currently working on a second book. They are committed to the understanding that conflict is not inevitable, and that relationships can be the inspiration for peace on earth.
Today our topic is about both self love and how to use intuition to improve your relationship.
Pamela Cummins is an ordained interfaith spiritualist minister, advanced clinical hypnotherapist, certified energy healer, body/mind counselor and teacher. Known as the “Musical Psychic” She specializes in love and relationships, personal growth, and dream interpretation, and regularly performs readings, coaching, and workshops. Pamela hosts “The Love Channel Show “on Blogtalk radio, is a frequent guest on radio shows and in publication, and she has authored two books, including Psychic Wisdom on Love and Relationships.
Relationship coaches Jonathon Aslay and Dr. Sheri Meyers used to be a couple who thought they’d go the distance. It didn’t happen. That’s not so unusual. What was extraordinary was the way they broke up Consciously. Lovingly. Transformationally. In fact it was so extraordinary, it actually made the local news.
Known as America’s Leading Midlife Dating & Relationship Coach, Jonathon Aslay is a defender and protector of women’s hearts around the world. He helps women transform from attracting Mr. Wrong into finding their Mr. Right.
Dr. Sheri Meyers is a Marriage & Family Therapist and the author of Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship. She is among the nation’s most frequently quoted and interviewed relationship and infidelity specialists and regularly appears on NBC, ABC, CBS, CNN and FOX.
Jennifer Twardowski is a self and relationship coach and teacher. She is the founder of jennifertwardowski.com where she helps women create fulfilling relationships and lives by reconnecting with their true heart’s desires. She has founded her business on the belief that true healing and peace can come through complete empathetic understanding in both our relationships with others and our relationships with ourselves. Jennifer has been featured in Cosmopolitan magazine, TinyBuddha, Elephant Journal, YourTango, and more. Jennifer and Bill talk about that one troublesome relationship we all have … the relationship with ourselves.
I have a dear friend who is one of the most sensitive people I know. If I share some pain with her, I know she will respond deeply. She will truly feel my pain. I can see it in her face. I love that about her.
My challenge is that she then turns it into her pain, almost immediately. The conversation might look something like this.
Me: My dog, Bongo, died and I’m absolutely sick about it.
Her: (possibly tearing up) Oh my goodness! That is so sad! You’ve had her for 14 years. You must really be hurting.
Me: (sniff) Yeah. That dog was a true member of our family.
Her: I remember when my dog, Scruffy died. I didn’t get out of bed for three days. (Insert here: 20 lines about Scruffy, what she meant to my friend, and so on.)
There are two things that really bug me about this. One is that I know I do the same thing, and I don’t like that about myself. I’m really good at empathizing because I can call up similar experiences. But too often I get caught up in my own pain and forget about my partner’s pain.
The other is that, while I would have had space to hear about Scruffy eventually, I wasn’t done feeling my feelings about Bongo and whatever feelings of loss and abandonment his passing triggered.
I remember when I was four, I waited with my grandmother for what felt like an interminable time (it was probably not 10 minutes) to ride the carousel. When it was finally our turn, I picked out a cool looking horse, and my grandmother helped me up. Against the background music of the player piano and the smells of the carnival, I was giddy with anticipation.
The ride started, went around a single rotation, and then stopped. I sat on my horse in the up-high position for a few minutes before we learned there was a mechanical failure. My grandmother helped me down and we left. I wasn’t sad enough to cry, but I really felt cheated out of the promised ride.
That’s how I feel whenever my friend so quickly turns my pain into her pain. I don’t get the full ride. I’d rather she draw me out, maybe even let me cry a little. I’d like to feel those feelings, because I know the more deeply I can feel them now, the less they’ll linger over me like a dark cloud. My friend is even talented enough, if she is so inclined, to take me back to a more primal pain to help me heal some of the core suffering I’ve been carrying around for 50-plus years.
Empathy is really hearing your partner. Love is hanging in there for the full ride.
Linda Mastroianni is a Huffington Post author and a graduate of Tony Gaskins Life Coaching class and a member of his Top Grade Coaches. She originally got into coaching to help other parents like herself navigate the needs of autistic and other special needs children. From there her practice expanded to coaching partners in relationship. She coaches with the approach of maximizing positive intentions, learning to live with gratitude and emphasizing positive thinking. Today, among other things, we’re talking about how to build solid relationships without suspicious minds.