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23Jun

Mark Wolynn – Understanding Inherited Trauma for Better Relationships with Ourselves and Others

The science of epigenetics has proven that trauma is passed genetically over generations in humans and other animals. In this highly practical and useful episode, Mark Wolynn talks with Bill about how inherited family trauma affects ourselves and our relationships, and how we might begin to break the cycle.

Mark Wolynn is a leading expert on inherited family trauma. As the director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, he trains clinicians and treats people struggling with depression, anxiety, panic disorder, obsessive thoughts, self-injury, chronic pain, and other persistent symptoms and conditions. A sought-after lecturer, he leads workshops at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and teaching centers around the world. His recent book, It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle won the 2016-2017 Silver Nautilus Award for Psychology.

05May

Fear of Loving – Barbara Azzara, Senior Pathwork Teacher

Barbara Azzara - Senior Pathwork Helper

Barbara Azzara returns to Conscious Couples Conversations to talk about the Pathwork take on Fear of Loving.

Barbara Azzara is a Senior Pathwork Helper, and she trains people all over the world. Now, at age 82, she has studied with some of the most revered spiritual and relationship teachers in the world. She is a master teacher in the areas of Love and Inspiring Spirit. Her practice focuses on dealing with the deeper meaning of fear, and our addiction to fear. The essence of her work better enables us to treat our wounded selves with loving kindness. This can open the door to the ultimate exploration of the relationship to self, other, and the divine within.

16Feb

Love and Fear – Barbara Azzara – Senior Pathwork Teacher

Barbara Azzara

Barbara Azzara is a Senior Teacher in the Pathwork of self-transformation, training people in United States, Italy, Australia, Brazil and Serbia. She is a master teacher in the areas of Love and Inspiring Spirit. Her practice focuses on dealing with the deeper meaning of fear as the final addiction on the planet. The essence of this work is to treat the wounded self with a loving kindness that opens the door to the ultimate exploration of the relationship to self, other, and the divine within.

18Aug

Angela Wilkinson Podcast – Relationships from the Inside

Angela Wilkinson

With a passion to help men and women manifest more love in their life, Angela Wilkinson uses her expertise in the art of attraction and love to empower people to create the relationship they want while falling more in love with themselves. Angela, known as The Goddess Next Door, combines her 10+ years as a therapist and transformational life coach with her intuitive insights to guide clients through her powerful Love SPARK formula.

23Jun

Dualistic Thinking Limits Us

Dualistic Thinking Recently a friend of mine said that his concern, “… way out in front of global warming, is job growth. Once people have jobs and income, then we can start working on issues like climate change.”

This kind of dualistic thinking gets us in trouble with our country, our environment, our relationships, our health, and in every area of our lives.

The truth is it’s almost never either/or.

Examples of such faulty thinking include:

I have to work and/or travel a lot so I can’t eat well.
I can’t take care of our children and take care my partner.
I’m in a huge rush, so I don’t have time to say what I need to say in a civil manner.
I’m too busy to exercise.
I’m too busy to meditate and be reflective.
I’m too busy to take the time to do my work conscientiously.
Feelings are more important than thoughts.
Intelligence is more important than intuition.

The truth is that if you rush your communication with your partner, if you don’t take the time to say “I love you,” you are going to have less connection, less energy, and less productivity. I know that by taking care of my partner first, we’ll both do a better job of taking care of our children. It’s like they say on the airplanes, “Put your own oxygen mask on first, so that you can better assist your child.”

The truth is that if you don’t take the time to exercise and eat well, you’ll have poorer health, less energy and less productivity.

Ghandi, whose routine included meditating an hour a day, famously said, “I have so much to accomplish today, I need to meditate for two hours instead of one.”

I’m a capitalist and a socialist, and I see no contradiction there. I believe in free markets and in ensuring that every citizen has basic needs like health care. It doesn’t have to be either/or.

Dualistic thinking is killing us. The dualistic media (virtually all media) wants to create confrontation on every front. It’s what sells. It what lets us tap into our righteous ego titillation – the juicy negative pleasure we get from being pissed off. We need to find a healthier way to get that pleasure. We need to be inclusive, not exclusive. We need to come from abundance, not scarcity.

I happen to think that both the planet’s and humanity’s survival depend on it – at least in the long run, if not in our lifetimes.

God bless us all.

Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?

– Mary Oliver, The Summer Day

21May

Transforming Communication

Bill gave this well-received talk to the Pittsburgh Coaches Association in October of 2013.

The description they used follows. Click on the image to view the chart referenced in the talk.

We experience ourselves, others and the world via communication. Yet most of us are far less conscious of what is coloring our perceptions in communication, and how what we say is interpreted. Transforming communication is the essence of what makes our personal and business relationships succeed. In realizing the full extent of this, we are inspired to continually improve such that our own relationships blossom, and we are empowered to coach others to be better communicators.

Join William Weil, an internationally recognized professional teacher, writer and relationship coach. In his writings and seminars he offers practical wisdom for self-discovery and transformation via interpersonal relationships. Bill is the author of New Earth Relationships: A Guide for Couples in the 21st Century, and From Intuition to Entrepreneurship. He also created LovePong.com, an interactive app supporting couples in elevating their consciousness and communicating more powerfully.

By participating in this presentation you will:

Begin to own what you bring to communication
Elevate your consciousness of your own communication and that of others
Be in a better position to coach people on how their communication impacts others
Open the door wider to enhancing all of your relationships

20May

Transformation

A baby caterpillar doesn’t transform

into an adult caterpillar,

it simply grows into one

with all its baby-caterpillar characteristics –

shape, color, propensity to travel by land.

At some point it spins a cocoon.

A metaphor for meditation and stillness,

I envision the caterpillar going inside,

feeling its feelings,

asking for guidance to see all sides of itself,

pondering its place in the universe,

meditating on its highest purpose.

It declares the willingness to shed its former self,

all its thoughts and beliefs,

all things to which it has so desperately clung,

for the possibility of what it might become.

-BW

21Apr

Gwyneth Paltrow, Conscious Uncoupling, Conscious Coupling

With all the praise going to Gwyneth Paltrow’s conscious uncoupling shouldn’t the real focus be on conscious coupling?

Don’t get me wrong, I love the idea of conscious uncoupling when both parties responsibly choose to end a relationship.

But what resources do we have for conscious coupling? There are some good books available, such as “Getting the Love You Want” and “Making Marriage Simple.” (I’m also fond of “New Earth Relationships,” but that may seem too self-serving.)

I’m also a big fan of couple’s therapy/marriage counseling. The problem is that most couples won’t explore this option until there is so much baggage, the chance of success is 20% for very responsible partners, and much less for everyone else.

The whole motivation for LovePong is to have an easy, gentle, loving way to couple consciously before you acquire the baggage. We all start out with our own baggage, and, unless we’re in the process of unloading, we keep taking on more.

Every partner needs to decide if you’re going to be in the business of packing or unpacking. If the former, you’re headed for the falls. If the latter, you need a regular practice. It’s not going to happen by itself.

That’s what LovePong is for. The premium version has the Conscious Couples Course. The idea behind this course is not only to support the relationship, but to support each partner in the relationship in unloading his/her own baggage – leveraging the loving support of the other.

While I have a personal attachment to your using LovePong, I have a bigger commitment to relationships. Use our tool, or use someone else’s. But don’t just wait and hope it will work out. If things aren’t getting better, they’re getting worse. Do something before it’s too late.

17Feb

Margaret Paul

In this, one of our favorite conversations, Dr. Margaret Paul asserts that the essence of relationship conflict is a byproduct of self-abandonment.

Dr. Margaret Paul is the author of a number of best-selling books, including Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, and Healing Your Aloneness. Her books have been translated into eleven languages and are distributed around the world.

She holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including Oprah. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and continues to work with individuals and couples — mostly via phone.

Her passion is helping people heal the root cause of their pain and learn the path to joy and loving relationships.

29Jan

Nogie King

Author of the highly acclaimed book, The Currency of Connection, Nogie King is a life coach, entrepreneur, activist and public speaker who has been designing compelling programs and delivering empowering experiences for over 20 years.

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