Marina J co-authored Healthy Wise and Amazing Women which went to number one on Amazon in just six hours. Her company specializes in women flourishing through proven programs – helping women around the world create a life that turns them on. She is currently writing her second book and is fascinated by what she calls, “women living to the design of their body.”
There are few clean comedians who can make you laugh as hard as Jeff Allen can, fewer still who can inspire you to tears, and no one who combines these to a more powerful effect.
He’s appeared on Comedy Central, VH-1, Showtime, and other networks, he’s the author of the book, My Life As A Bystander, and a number of wonderful comedy videos including Happy Life, Happy Wife Revisited and My Heart, My Comedy. His comedy is largely based on his family, and his testimony comes from his recovery from drugs and alcohol. In today’s conversation, Jeff shares deeply from his life, with messages to inspire all of us committed to great relationships. We close with a couple of my favorite clips from Happy Wife, Happy Life, Revisited. You can find more at www.jeffallencomedy.com.
What do women really want from men?
What do men really want from women?
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Featuring, William Weil, Author of New Earth Relationships: A Guide for Couples in the 21st Century and Founder of LovePong.
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For 25 years, Kristine Catalina has empowering man/woman relationships all over the world. She assists people in exploring, understanding and accepting the differences between the sexes. Kristine was a pioneer in the Human Potential Movement and for six years she produced man/woman courses for people in the programs of the Institute of Human Effectiveness, an organization committed to the research of sensuality, man/woman interactions, communications and alternative lifestyles. Since 1991 she has been teaching relationship courses throughout the US and Canada and currently specializes working one-on-one as a coach in personal and family relationships.
The author of Man-Woman Relationships Made Easy, Kristine talks to us about what women want, what men want, what each needs to know about the other, and how to heat things up in the bedroom.
Based on their own program of recovery, mentoring experience and commitment to “passing it on,” Bill and Sandy Fifield have spoken to over 200 groups, in speaking engagements and workshops. Their recent book, “Dig Deep in One Place: A Couple’s Journey to a Spiritual Life.” encompasses all phases of the spiritual disease of fear, which afflicts all of us. Their story is an epic journey of 45 years through addiction, alcoholism, and co-dependence to come to a life of happy, joyous freedom. Learn more at: www.digdeepinoneplace.com. This program was recorded on July 31, 2013. Sadly, Bill, who had been struggling with cancer, died the following week. Along with sadness, I feel privileged to have gotten to know Bill for this brief period before he left us. -BW
Allan Hardman is an author and expert on personal and spiritual transformation, relationships, emotional healing– and a Toltec Master in the lineage of don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements.™ Allan teaches in Sonoma County, CA, and from “The House of the Eagles,” his winter home in Chacala, Nayarít, Mexico. He guides Journeys of the Spirit to sacred sites in Mexico, and hosts wellness vacations in Chacala. He is the author of The Everything Toltec Wisdom Book, and co-author of two books with Deepak Chopra, Caroline Myss, Dr. Andrew Weil, Prince Charles, and others. Visit Allan’s extensive website at www.joydancer.com, where you can also learn about his online spiritual membership community.
Death is the last taboo in our American culture, and spiritually, it’s killing us.
“The gift of death,” according to Stephen Jenkinson (a.k.a., the Griefwalker), “is life.” If there were no death, life would not be precious in its ephemerality. We would just take every day for granted.
Except, in our culture, that’s exactly what we do. We do everything possible to stave off and deny the eventuality of death. And it’s costing us our lives.
I’ve begun to use this in my relationship coaching and couples workshops to help create a sense of urgency. What if you were going to die on September 30th, 2013? This next, would be your last Thanksgiving, your last Christmas, your last Valentine’s Day. It would be the last time you’d see the crocus pop up in spring. I mean, wouldn’t you want to just spread out a blanket and watch that crocus for hours? Would you make sure you showered your children with love? Would you forgive your partner his/her past transgressions and desperately find a way to, one final time, really connect on a level you’d always dreamed might be possible?
You and I, I tell my clients, and now I’m telling you, have squandered our lives. We’ve spent most of it feeling like we have forever. We don’t. And we’ve squandered our relationships (at home, at work, with work). We dole out forgiveness and affection like there is a scarcity of it, and it needs to last forever. What a shameful waste!
The truth is, not everyone reading this even has until September 30th, 2013. “Not me!” you say. “I’ll still be here!” To which, I say, so what. You are still going to die, sooner or later, and probably sooner than you think. But are you really living now? What are you doing with your short time here on earth? What actions are you taking to make every moment count? When are you going to heal your relationships and your relationship with yourself?
What are you waiting for? Death is around the corner. Embrace it and rejoice!
There has been a lot of breakup in our extended circle lately, and each one seems to be fitting the same pattern. The “giver” in the relationship keeps giving, and giving in, without standing up for, or taking care of, him or herself. Finally, he snaps, and ends the relationship. The thing bent until it broke. And everyone rallies around the so-called giver saying, “You did everything you could.”
I don’t think so.
What you did was become a “victim” of your dance with your partner, and in your intended generosity, you sold out your partner by allowing your resentment to build until you burst. One might also say you belittled your partner, by treating her (or him) with kid gloves – like she just wasn’t big enough to handle your being authentic.
And maybe she wasn’t.
But isn’t that how we grow? If you break (and properly set) a bone, it grows back stronger. Five years ago, JoAnn and I ended our four-year relationship. We made a clean break. Then we healed it, and today we are much stronger than we ever were in our first four years.
I had to learn to stand up to JoAnn’s rage. To be both a heat sink to help absorb it – so that she could discharge it – but to also know when to say enough, so that I didn’t become consumed by it. My friends all agreed I should end it. But they didn’t know what a precious jewel I had, and I was a stand for what was possible for us, and a stand that JoAnn was so much more than her frailties.
When we are frail or acting out of our lower selves, we can convince the people around us that we’re just not up to being adult, strong, passionate, resilient human beings. In my case, I had to stop being a victim and stop treating JoAnn like she was some fragile, breakable thing. This is a woman who survived child abuse, spousal abuse, who told an armed robber, “Go ahead and shoot me, you’re not getting my money,” who has built successful businesses, and who spends most of her time healing the physically and psychologically challenged.
I wasn’t going to be the one to help keep her small anymore. That’s not what partner’s do. And thank God, because among her many gifts, she’s also the most amazing partner – beyond what I’d ever dreamed of.
If you’re the giver in your relationship, and you notice you’re being resentful, stop it. Stop ripping your partner off. Treat him like an adult. Confront what you’re not confronting. Don’t be afraid to bend it until it breaks. Take it from me, straight from the heart, it might be the best thing that ever happens to you.