The obtaining of one’s quest for authenticity, wholeness and enlightenment, does not require lightning flashes or the discovery of some holy grail. It simply requires a slight shift in position, namely, “getting off of” whatever point of view one is rigidly attached to, and usually “being right” about.
If you feel that your partner (or any person or situation) is the cause of your unhappiness, it is possible to relinquish that point of view, even if you are “right,” even if someone did something objectionable to you. Regardless of the circumstances, you can let go of being right about your position and point of view. Instead, you can choose to be “at cause” in the matter, rather than “at the effect of,” and thus be fully responsible, moment to moment, for the quality of your experience of living.
The eigo hates this. The eigo wants to be right. The eigo enjoys being a victim and justifying one’s victimhood. If you look at the Eigo Chart, our thrown, automatic pull to being right, justifying and being a victim, takes us into darkness. “Getting off of it” opens the pathway to the light.
The mind is receiving and reviewing many hundreds of negative thoughts each day, and will continue to do so for the rest of your life. The challenge isn’t in not having these thoughts – that’s impossible. The challenge is in:
- having the consciousness to recognize that you are having these thoughts, and
- choosing to own these as thoughts you do not wish to empower. You simply acknowledge their presence, thank the mind for “sharing,” and choose to allow in divine guidance.
There is something even bigger at stake than one’s relationship, and that is one’s relationship to all of life. Because God, or the Universe or Something is constantly streaming us love, guidance and wisdom. It’s in and around us all of the time. And our negative thoughts act as a force field preventing us from allowing these streamings to enter our consciousness. When we “get off it,” we empower our relationships and ourselves.
When we own our negative thinking, we instantly (at least momentarily), dissolve this force field and allow the wonderful streamings to enter – at least until the next negative thought enters. The game is to get better and better at quickly identifying, owning and releasing these negative thoughts.
Our experience of living, especially in our western materialistic culture, is a tiny fraction of what is available to us – the tip of the iceberg. When you repeatedly dissolve the negative energy force field, over time what you will experience is an amazing abundance of love, energy, wisdom and joy. You and your partner have the ability to conspire to bring this about. To constantly practice “getting off of it” with each other. To constantly remind each other that owning, vs. empowering, negative thinking is the gateway to a wonderful, abundant, miraculous experience of living.